This is a Vision Quest we’ve created for couples in a committed relationship. It began when Mike Bodkin (Rites of Passage Executive Director) and his wife, Renee Sweezey, quested together in August 2007. They were looking for a way to renew their partnership and marriage, and Renee suggested a Vision Quest together. They asked Kent and Farion Pearce, both of whom have served as Rites of Passage guides, to help create a couple’s quest and guide them. In collaboration with Kent and Farion, Renee and Mike co-created a new form, one involving time spent alone as well as time spent together on the solo. They found the process powerful, deep and renewing and continue to draw on its gifts ten years later…so much so that they have now decided to share it with other couples.
We’re offering this by arrangement for up to two couples at a time, on our land outside Santa Rosa, California. Preparation involves looking deeply at three intentions: the purpose/intention of each individual, and the purpose and intention of the couple (the Third). The solo time will also reflect this approach: Two days of solo for each individual, one full day of solo for the couple to be together, fasting, in the silence of nature, before returning to the world. We’ll follow a similar approach when we work with the stories after the solo time. There will be one story for each partner and one for the Third, the mysterious story of the couple’s journey. We will listen to, and reflect, the story from each individual member of the couple, then the story of the mysterious Third, the story of the couple together, reflected by the time spent in nature.